Have you ever had that moment when something happens that is so in appropriate that you just stand in stunned silence? Unable to grasp what just happened? Unable to find the words to right the wrong or speak to seek understanding of what just happened?
Well that happened to me last night. I can’t stop thinking about it and so this has become my slice today.
It happened at orchestra rehearsal. I play the french horn and have played it since elementary school. I’ve been around musicians for most of my life and have never encountered this type of behavior before.
We had separated into sectional rehearsal and our group, 3 trumpets, 2 horns, tuba and a trombone were rehearsing “Stairway to Heaven” and “Bohemian Rhapsody.” Apparently there were words exchanged by two of the trumpet players that no one else in the group heard. We had a relatively good rehearsal and then, at the end, the young trombone player was saying, “Good rehearsal everyone!” When suddenly, a veteran trumpet player got into the face of one of the young college trumpet players. I mean he was inches from his face. Yelling at him, cursing and throwing his music. Over what? I don’t really care what it was, nothing would justify such behavior in my mind. It was totally absurd and uncalled for. The rest of us all stood stunned. No one said anything as the young man that was yelled at sat redfaced and asserted that he thought he was joking.
I guess the icing on the cake was that older gentleman that should know better was telling the story of what he did and said to some other members of the orchestra and laughing.
I wish I would have said something then. I feel like a coward. I did stay back and try to talk to the young man to see if he was okay. But now.. the next day, I really really wish I would have spoken what was on my mind at the time.
I will be talking to the conductor about the incident, but still feel that it isn’t enough.